birdkid:

whatsajuthika:

It is not discipline to spank a kid. I assure you that my position on this issue is clear. Parents do not have a right to lay a hand on their children, because they already have a control over their kids already.

It does not require physical force to discipline a child, especially younger children. When I was spanked, I cried for fucking hours. That trust gets ruined with spanking, and eventually it escalates to further violence, like my dad smacking me across the face even when I was 16. It honestly ruined me when I was a kid. 

another point: real respect (which is what will make your child truly mind you) is not gained through fear of pain. my cousin minds his mother, but only around her due to not wanting to get hit. he badmouths her behind her back so the “punishment” is really just a discipline halfway house and it’s lazy and ineffective unless you want kids that kiss up to your face but disobey you wherever they may not get punished in such a way (my cousin & my siblings serve as good examples).

also me, i was spanked and belted as a child and look how i turned out.

I respect your opinion, but I disagree. My dad spanked me when I was a kid. This was balanced out with positive parenting techniques as well, so I grew up thinking my dad was great, but I also respected the fact that he was going to lay down the law if I got out of hand. 

My mother never spanked me, because she had a real “be a best bud, not a parent” gimmick going on, and didn’t do much more than yell at me as a child. This really did nothing, because I was pretty good at screaming back, so instead of putting me inline, she sent me to shrinks, who then put me on prescription meds, which basically ruined my entire childhood by altering my brain chemistry and turning me into what I am today. To this day, I don’t consider my mother a “mother”, she’s more like this older chick that I can talk to and who lends me money now and then if I’m in a tight spot, and who I lend money to now and then. If she ever actually firmly told me to do something, or told me that something I’m doing with my life was wrong, I’d probably laugh in her face and tell her to go fuck herself. Contrarily, if my dad was still alive and told me to get my shit together, I’d do it doublequick. 

I’m sorry to the kids out there that are ruined by spanking, or who get spanked and the aggression turns into beatings. I don’t believe that is always the case, however, and I still don’t believe a parent should spend time in prison for using it as an occasional highest form of discipline. -E

(Source: juthikaforpresident)